She sounds awful and I would absolutely minimise her contact with any children you do have unless she radically changes

I’m a 30-year-old woman who has been with my partner for almost four years. We’r…

Would you want this to become sexual? If the answer is yes, then think about what might be holding you back

I don’t know whether I am in love with my friend or not. We hang out a lot, because we work …

The real question isn’t whether you are being lied to, but why ‘tall tales’ land so heavily with you

When I was 21, I went on a girls’ trip with university friends. Over dinner, one of the girls, who …

Your mother expects to be taken on holiday and your siblings aren’t pulling their weight, so you’re right to be angry as things clearly aren’t fair

For years, it has fallen to me and my sister to take…

You must look after your own mental health. A therapist could provide a safe space to discuss your feelings

I feel torn between being a supportive wife and protecting my own mental health. My husband …

It feels as if your work and your identity are fused. You’ll get through this, but you may have to use this time to consider other careers

I’ve been a teacher for more than 20 years and loved it. I ha…

Your history of being picked on at school has a lot do with your feelings of being ‘faulty’. Getting involved in a group of mixed ages would help avoid memories of childhood

I’m in my late 30s and hav…

Turn your attention to your internal landscape rather than the next building project. Make your next project yourself

My wife and I are in our late 60s. The past 20 years have felt like treading water…

Some people are better at organising, and it sounds as if you all have fun when you do get together, so try not to take it personally

My friends seem genuinely happy to see me when we’re together and …

Pessimism can be a form of self-protection, so it might be helpful to reflect on where this pattern started

I am a 38-year-old woman with three kids and a husband. I often find myself expecting people…