The Guardian’s sex advice column is coming to an end after 20 years. Here are some of the most memorable questions and answers
• Pamela Stephenson Connolly on two decades of solving readers’ sex probl…

I long to settle down with someone who can fulfill my sexual and emotional needs. But every time the excitement of a new relationship subsides, I want to stray

I’m a gay man in my late 40s. Since the …

We recently began exploring group sex. But he insists I crossed a line one morning, and is punishing me with silence and distance

My husband and I are in an open relationship (both male, married for e…

My husband and I still have sex – but something’s missing. Is stress the culprit?

I’m a woman in my 50s and have been with my husband for decades. We have always had a wonderful sex life and I used t…

I am happy to give him oral sex, but feel disrespected when he fails to reciprocate. Does this mean the end of our relationship?

I am a 56-year-old widow. My husband died two years ago, and I am now i…

He struggles to maintain an erection and I feel worthless as his partner. I wonder whether there’s a way back for us

When we first met, 12 years ago, my husband and I didn’t waste any time in starting…

I’m 64 and have had many lovers, but I can now only climax through masturbation, and frequently find myself faking it in bed

I am a 64-year-old single man and have had more than 30 sexual partners in …

He prefers to get intimate in anonymous spaces and initiates sex every time we’re at someone else’s house. I love the excitement, but feel manipulated

My husband and I never have sex at home, only at …

He doesn’t kiss me or touch me intimately. I am starting to feel self-conscious and worried that I’m just not his type

My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months. The first time we were ph…

After 12 years together, she told me how many people she had slept with before we met. It has made it harder for me to accept how rarely we have sex

I’ve been with my wife for 12 years. She recently a…